I'M SICK OF FEELING MARGINALIZED. It's 2010 people. Women have babies without men. All. The. Time. And to do so, that often has to involve the medical community. So WHY THE EFF does the medical community then ASSUME that all children have two parents?
If you missed my first diatribe about the medical community making me feel bad about being a single mom, it was up at Our Mommyhood last week.
My daughter is going for allergy testing in a few weeks. I had a few moments today when I was
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The first part of the form asks for the patient's occupation. If the patient is a child, they want the FATHER's occupation here. (Can I put "Sperm Donor"?) The mother's information goes under Spouse. As in, second class citizen, practically.
The second part of the form asks about environmental conditions. "Does child live with both parents, yes or no? If not, describe visitation." He has never seen her in his life because his role was Sperm Donor, see previous page.
I have half a mind to cancel the appointment. This is the allergist that was referred by our Ped, but I'm about to call them and tell them that they appear to be so unfriendly to single mothers that I don't care to even set foot in their office.
I won't, probably. I'll calm down in 10 minutes when I eat something. But I do plan to inform them when we go that their paperwork is outdated and should be more accommodating.
For the first part, I crossed out "father" and wrote in "mother", and put College Professor as my occupation. For Spouse I put N/A for "not applicable".
For the back, I am a little unsure how to answer. No, she doesn't live with both parents. She lives with her mother who had her on her own. I'm thinking of putting "no" then "no visitation" and then having a little fun when they get confused. What do they want you to put if one parent dies? Visitation "in heaven"? The question is all around structured poorly.
I'll try to use it as an opportunity to inform others. If I can calm down before then. Otherwise ... it might be bad.