So, I'm on Amazon looking up the amazing list of books that I've been able to put together from my amazing commenters. I envision filling my daughter's bookshelf will all these books that feature a single mommy that will help her grow up completely well-adjusted. I have a full cart. I'm loving life.
I come across a recommendation based on the books I am browsing and adding to my cart. Based on the title, I click and read. Thankfully, the description is detailed enough to include "anonymous donor", so I know that book doesn't really fit our situation. I file it in my brain under "maybe" - maybe I could make it work ... hard to tell without actually reading the book ... lets see if there is anything about known donors. This one I can't tell, but given that it includes the term "donor insemination", it's not likely to apply to us either. And this one is a mommy and daddy and a donor and is pretty far from what our family looks like, so ... no.
This poor kid's mom tells him that his daddy just didn't stick around. This one is nice and generic, according to the error-ridden description. "Divorice [sic] or Death." Like those are the only two reasons a kid would have a single parent. There is even one about single moms adopting.
There are PLENTY of two-mom books (maybe I should get a girlfriend) and two-dad books (or a sex change). Neither sound particularly appealing to me at this juncture. I'm looking for one that explains my life choices, not that forces me to choose a different lifestyle to fit the book.
I did get this one (The Family Book) which talks about different kinds of families. That's a start, but it doesn't address the origin questions.
I think I'm just anxious about how to answer her questions that I know are inevitable. If I had books to prepare both of us, then when she goes out into the big bad world where children tease and belittle, she might have a way to explain our situation without getting damaged. I'll definitely be teaching her about the well-timed "it's not any of your business".
Maybe I should write a children's book about a SMC that conceives using a known donor. Apparently that is a field that is lacking :)