Thursday, October 14, 2010
If You're A SMC, Don't Buy This Book
I was even a little heartwarmed that there was a whole section for Single Mamas.
It says: "Being a single mom means knowing that, while two-parent homes are best for children, life doesn't always work out that way."
I'm sorry, I vehemently disagree. Two-parent homes are NOT best for children.
Read this, and tell me that having a father was better for that child than being in my household. Read this and tell me that a two-parent household is better for that child than having a single mother like me, or like all the other SMC's whose blogs I read.
And given the obviously conservative views of the author, does he really think that two lesbian parents are better than my situation, or two gay daddies are better than one single mommie? (I read somehwhere there is research that shows that children of two lesbian mommies score better on tests and have some other positives. I should find it to link. Too busy. Also, I've said before that perhaps I should try the two mommies thing. Not right now, though.) Back to the point - would this conservative think that two women or two men would be better households than mine? I don't think he would. But there he writes, "knowing two parent homes are best for children". No, I'm sorry, I don't know that. In fact, I believe the opposite. I believe that two people in a home who have emotional issues, animosity and anger, or substance abuse issues can be more detrimental to a child than a parent who loves and provides and cares for them, and surrounds their child with an extended support system.
And I won't even go into the fact that the very next paragraph is about a "new relationship". Because that's FIRST on the mind of every single mama, isn't it? OMG, I have to be in another relationship right now. Because THAT'S just the BEST thing for my little one and me, isn't it? GOD FORBID it just be the two of us in a healthy and happy home environment.